Compromise-It Can Kill A Relationship

If you want to ruin a relationship try to make compromise the expectation.  I have heard that compromise is the key to a great relationship.  I strongly disagree.  I know it sounds strange but hear me out.

On the service, compromise sounds like a great thing.  "We will meet in the middle" is the mantra of compromise.  However, think about what happens when two people meet in the middle.  Does either person get what they want?  Is the best decision made?  No!  It is a lose-lose situation.  Both people walk away feeling bad.  Those bad feelings, if not checked, will turn into resentment over time.  How can a relationship work if it is full of resentment?  It will die.  

What is the alternative?  Does one person dominate and the other person just follows along?  That still produces resentment.  That does not fix the problem.  The answer is simple yet very difficult to accomplish.  It takes commitment and hard work.  The only way that does not compromise the relationship is for both people to come together and work out the best solution.  When that decision is made together no one looses.  Neither person feels like they have given up something to the other.  If something was given up, it was given up to receive something better.  The something better is not just the best decision, but it is oneness in the relationship.

Do not compromise the quality of your relationship by compromising.